When gossip Girl was on, fans loved Chuck and Blair's chemistry, but there's no denying that Chuck and Blair were also horrible to each other. Gossip Girl followed the lives of wealthy teenagers on the Upper East Side as their every move was stalked by an anonymous blogger. Chuck (Ed Westwick) and Blair (Leighton Meester) were two of the richest and highest social status teenagers in their circle. They were also one of the main couples in the series.
Their love story was epic and confusing and at times downright horrible. They often brought out the worst in each other, but in the end they kept coming back to each other, which is part of what made them so fascinating to audiences. Chuck and Blair had their cute moments, but it wasn't enough to save the fact that they were in a toxic relationship. It's one thing to be part of an enemies-to-lovers trope; It's quite another to be enemies and lovers at the same time.
The worst things Chuck did to Blair on Gossip Girl
Chuck traded Blair for a hotel
This is one of the worst things Chuck could do to another person, let alone the love of his life. Chuck's Uncle Jack makes a deal with him: if he's willing to turn Blair over to him, Chuck can be the owner of the hotel he's looking for. Chuck agrees to the deal and sells Blair to his uncle for ownership of the hotel. He treated his girlfriend like a literal object rather than a human being with feelings and emotions.
The exchange between Jack and Chuck is normal within their family. The audience is able to see that many of Chuck's most toxic characteristics are the remnants of his father and uncle's influence on his life. Blair realizes this too, but the knowledge that he was willing to literally sell another human being for property is something she never seems to truly forgive, despite being willing to forgive Chuck for almost anything.
Chuck was verbally abusive
He even said that it gave him immense pleasure to see her suffer...
Chuck seems to get annoyed at making Blair feel terrible. He would tell her countless times that he didn't love her, would make her feel worthless by telling her that she had lost all her worth and beauty, and would regularly insult her for giving too much or too little. Chuck apparently enjoyed playing with her emotions and seeing how far he could push her with just his words.
He even said that it gave him immense pleasure to see her suffer, adding that he wouldn't stop until she had "nothing", which makes him not only a terrible boyfriend, but a terrible person. Blair already had insecurity issues because of her relationship with her mother and her friendship with Serena, and Chuck only made everything worse for her.
It's actually quite surprising that the show didn't use her relationship with Chuck to highlight the body image issues she had in the first season, since his words hit her so specifically.
Chuck slept with Blair's enemy to get revenge on her
Fashion maven Jenny Humphrey and Blair Waldorf never saw eye to eye. In fact, it's fair to say that they almost always fought with each other. They tried to be friendly, but Jenny learned very quickly from Blair's Queen B methods and decided to usurp her position of power.
When Chuck got the impression that Blair no longer loved him, he ended up sleeping with Jenny - the same person he tried to sexually assault as a freshman. This is after we already learned that Jenny and Blair were competing for the title of Queen B. Chuck was just using Jenny as an act of revenge against Blair. When Blair found out about their tryst, Chuck made his girlfriend feel like his affair with little J was her fault.and Blair still mostly blamed Jenny instead of Chuck.
Chuck got violent with Blair
When Blair was in a relationship with the prince who she thought would end up being the man of her dreams, Chuck became extremely jealous and possessive of her. He ended up grabbing her after she told him she didn't want him anymore, and he threw her to the ground claiming she belonged to him. He got on top of her and then when she screamed for him to stop, he threw a violent punch at the glass wall that was behind her. This behavior is simply inexcusable.
What makes this behavior even worse is that even though violence in a relationship is never an acceptable form of communication, Blair even tries to get back together with Chuck while she's still with Prince Louis. She offers that she will leave the prince and return to him when she starts to think that the fairy tale might not be real, and Chuck denies it, saying that she should stay with Louis.
He spends a lot of time scaring her and obsessing over her, but then completely discards her.
Chuck publicly humiliated Blair on Gossip Girl
One of the ways Chuck needed to grow throughout the series was by learning better ways to deal with rejection, because he tends to hurt others as a form of revenge whenever he doesn't get what he wants. Seeking revenge instead of accepting "no" is something Chuck does repeatedly throughout the series, not just in Blair's case.
However, when Blair chooses Nate over him, he decides to turn to Gossip Girl, where he reveals all of Blair's secrets about her sex life on the world wide web. He tells everyone about his personal affairs, and this destroys Blair's reputation. Not only did he give this information, but he also participated in her public shaming when he knows how important Blair's reputation is to her. If someone tried to tear down his perfectly constructed facade the way he did, they would probably be furious.
Chuck marries Blair to prevent her from testifying against him ...it's hard to imagine that Chuck's manipulations and illegal activities would have stopped simply because he married Blair.
The final episode of gossip Girl is full of a whirlwind of story conclusions. In addition to revealing that Dan has always been Gossip Girl, Chuck and Blair decide to get married while Chuck tries to avoid being arrested. The idea is that, as his wife, Blair can't be forced to testify against her husband, which will allow her to get away with his crimes and keep Blair out of them.
The scheme is presented as Chuck and Blair finally willing to commit to each other and spend the rest of their lives together, but it's so rushed and random that the more cynical in the audience might disagree. It's the last time Chuck can manipulate Blair to get what he wants from her in the series. If she had said she wanted to wait to marry him, his life might have taken a very different course.
A flash forward shows the two together with a child, but it's hard to imagine that Chuck's manipulations and illegal activities would have stopped simply because he married Blair.
The worst things Blair did to Chuck on Gossip Girl
Blair used boys to make Chuck jealous
Blair has a knack for using other men to make Chuck jealous. Chuck even said it best when he stated that Blair would treat men like “props” to get a reaction out of him. There were several times when she would date a guy just to hurt Chuck's feelings, and she rarely considered how that would end up destroying others' emotions.
She would often grab Nate or Prince Louis to kiss whenever Chuck entered the room in order to make him upset. It was very childish of Blair, but he hurt her so much that sometimes she would just act out of revenge, and that would end up clouding her judgement.
It's no different than Chuck deciding to make out with whatever hot body was closest whenever he was mad at Blair. The two partners often choose each other in front of each other to get revenge, which cannot be a good sign for a healthy relationship.
Blair made Chuck feel like he wasn't worthy of her
Blair loudly proclaims how disgusted she is with him to anyone who will listen...
From the beginning of the series, Blair is consumed by her image. The audience can understand why she is thanks to the season one episode “Blair Waldorf Must Pie,” but for most of the show, she wants to appear perfect to everyone around her. In her eyes, that means having the perfect boyfriend, and at the start of the show, that's Nate.
Even though Nate and Chuck are best friends, Blair always turns her nose at Chuck and insults him for his life choices. She makes derogatory comments about everything from women's choices to their attire. While, yes, Chuck does his best when Blair insults him, it should be noted that Blair loudly proclaims how disgusted she is by him to anyone who will listen, including Chuck himself. She even does this after they hook up for the first time.
Blair always insinuates that she is somehow better than Chuckthat being with him is beneath her. She does the same thing when Serena is interested in Dan, and even when she and Dan become closer. She has a habit of trying to put others down to make herself feel good, even when those others are people she likes.
Blair pushed Chuck into a relationship he wasn't ready for
While it's clear that Blair deserves someone much better than Chuck, it's not always fair of her to constantly push him into a serious relationship that he's clearly not ready for. They were only in high school at the time and Chuck had enough self-awareness to know that he didn't intend to be monogamous, especially at such a young age. Chuck wanted to have fun, and initially being with Blair was a good time for him.
However, because Blair wants this so badly, she pressures him to commit, even though he is clearly doubtful in the show's first few seasons. Blair is the type of person who is always searching for her fairy tale and trying to make sure she gets the happy ending she deserves. Sometimes, she doesn't care who she hurts when trying to reach him, and that includes Chuck.
Blair juggles Nate and Chuck at the same time
At the beginning of the series, Chuck and Nate are best friends. They were inseparable since childhood, but everything was put on hold when they fell in love with the same girl. After Blair gives in to her attraction to Chuck but is still not engaging in physical activity with Nate, she becomes confused about her feelings and begins juggling Nate and Chuck at the same time. Eventually, she starts sleeping with both of them.
While it's normal for a teenager to be insecure about what they want, the fact that Blair knew about Chuck and Nate's close friendship was a little careless on her part. She knew this would end up destroying their friendship, but she continued to sleep with them both anyway. It's worse when combined with her trying to have a perfect relationship with Nate, only to then pressure Chuck into a relationship as well.
Blair made Chuck feel embarrassed for liking her
When Chuck tells Blair that he's starting to get butterflies in his stomach about her, she tells him that those butterflies need to be squashed. Whenever they meet at the beginning of the series, Blair constantly insinuates that it's a big mistake, and she acts like Chuck is wrong about his feelings. Even though Blair is someone who dreams big and encourages her friends like Serena to explore their feelings, when it comes to Chuck, his feelings initially don't matter to her.
Although she also had feelings for him, she would put Nate on a pedestal and Chuck on the back burner. She would try to alienate Chuck as much as possible, and at the beginning of the series, she was almost ashamed to be associated with him.
Blair pressures Chuck to say those three words
Sometimes it's better to allow partners to move at their own pace. It's normal to want love and affection, but people need to go at their own pace and feel comfortable expressing themselves — whether verbally or physically. Blair, however, has difficulty accepting this idea.
Blair does everything she can to try and get Chuck to say "I love you", even though he's clearly not ready to do such a thing. It would be better if she allowed him to move at his own pace and said it when she felt comfortable doing so, rather than because he was forced to - especially since Chuck, like most people, doesn't react well to being told to do so. feels backed into a corner.
Although fans tend to love it when Blair and Chuck make declarations of their feelings, it should be noted that early in their relationship, Blair continues to pester him, first shaming his feelings and then trying her best to get him to admit it. them, effectively forcing Chuck into admitting them. In gossip Girlthere is no lack of manipulation between Chuck and Blair.