Chock Chapple won Joan Vassos’ heart in The golden bachelorette final – he proposed, and Joan accepted – but now that his long-distance relationship plans have been revealed, I’m wondering if he might be a selfish clout seeker. By choosing to keep their respective homes (each will take turns staying at the other’s home), they seem to be delaying a real commitment.
They are in no rush to get married and this is another red flag. While this kind of caution is often wise, true love is about throwing caution to the wind, isn’t it? I think it is. It’s about surrendering to something that feels magical and simply giving it one hundred percent. Are Chock and Joan doing this? It does not seem. Since Chock has a nine-year engagement history and never married his late fiancée, it is possible that he is playing with Joan, promising a future marriage that will never, ever happen.
They should want to live together
Will this long-distance relationship survive?
A truly passionate romance almost requires cohabitation. When passion is present in all its glorious abundance, neither half wants to sleep alone – they want to be together all the time. So the fact that they will probably live apart is sometimes worrying.
Maybe there is no physical distance – maybe they are always together, in one place or another, but there are likely to be times when they are apart. Maybe Chock is like that The Golden Bachelorit’s Gerry Turner, not really wanting to uproot his life for a woman. If so, fame (and the way it strokes your ego) could be the real reason you’re in the relationship. In the final episode of the season, Chock said:
We will be going back and forth between Kansas, Maryland and New York.
Joan and Chock’s Big Apple love nest will also be in the mix. It will be a place where they can meet sometimes, but it will not be their full-time home. This is why there are doubts about their relationship. It’s not that common to have this type of arrangement. It has a lot of practical advantages, allowing them both to maintain the lives they’ve built in their respective states, but I’m not sure the romance is supposed to be so sensible. To me, it seems like most happy couples live together.
Of course, there are exceptions, and it’s really interesting that they’re creating their own way of being together.
However, I see some potential problems here. The two apparently love being together, but they are both holding back, refusing to really mix their lives together. They don’t even intend to plan the wedding for months – that’s something for the future. It’s not impossible that they never intend to get married. Maybe Chock is ready for another nine-year commitment. Extending an engagement for so long is not something most women want.
There are always women who follow their own paths. They don’t need prefabricated relationships. However, that being said, most engaged women want to get married at some point…not a decade from now.
Maybe I’m being too hard on Chock. The nine-year commitment may have been a mutual decision. It’s terrible that Chock’s fiancée passed away and he seemed to love her deeply. Who am I to judge someone who has gone through something so painful? It’s not for me to say he should have married her. However, based on my own experience, when men put rings on women’s fingers, they want their marriage. They want the wedding dresses and the invitations and the whole nine yards.
Joan and Chock are rebelling in a quiet way, which I find interesting. They are not entering into a marriage to appease the public. People probably want to see another Golden marriage, wondering if the couple will end up crashing and burning like Gerry and Theresa did. By taking a truly mature approach, they’re not wildly romantic, but they can actually increase their chances of staying together. They are keeping the pressure low early on.
Chock may not really want to marry Joan
Is he getting cold feet?
Despite all these logical reasons to postpone a wedding and avoid true cohabitation, Chockwho smiles as Joan shows off her ring in the post above, has a history of not getting married. So, it’s possible that he’s not in this relationship for the right reason. There’s a chance Chock could play Joan, teasing a marriage that seems like a pipe dream. He could keep doing this for years and years. It’s up to her to decide if everything is ok or not.
Joan is a grown woman and definitely capable of making decisions about her own life. However, The golden bachelorette The stars’ apparent reluctance to get married may be more Chock’s choice than hers. If so, there may be trouble ahead. Chock could be Gerry again, promising the moon and stars and then backing out.
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