Confusion that never stops/
Closing walls and ticking clocks – Clocks (Coldplay)
The golden bachelorette star Joan Vassos is now engaged to Chock Chapple, and the pressure to mix her family with Chock's (and get married) may be getting to her. During the first season, Joan tried her best to choose between 24 suitors and sometimes felt confused. While she connected with Chock, she was also interested in other guys, including French hairdresser Pascal Ibgui. She needed some time before she could decide who was right for her. Now, the whole world expects her to succeed or fail – no matter what she does, she will be judged.
Going on the show was a risk Joan chose to take. On The Golden BachelorGerry Turner didn't choose her – even if he wasn't right for her, that kind of rejection hurts. So, she probably had to convince herself to try again. Of course, getting the starring role in The golden bachelorette It means prestige and money, but there is a downside. When Pascal abandoned her in front of the whole world, she felt that she was not worthy of love, but Joan is a beautiful, intelligent and sensitive person. What she felt shows how traumatic doing reality TV shows can be.
Joan misses her late husband
Moving forward is not easy
The lights go out and I can't be saved/
Tides I tried to swim against/
They brought me to my knees – Clocks (Coldplay)
Joan lost her husband just four years ago, and on November 27, while Chock and her children were spending Thanksgiving with her, she needed some time away. It was the birthday of her late husband, John Vassos, and Joan was in mourning. She was stuck between the past and the present.
On a special occasion, someone can be pulled back into grief – it can be so intense, almost as if the person has just died. It can be painful, shocking and terribly sad. Memories of happy times can hurt the most – some losses are so great they seem almost unbelievable, as if the whole world has gone dark… as if everything that is comforting and good and beautiful and right has just disappeared.
According to her TikTok, where she was sitting alone in her car discussing her emotions, she said she felt “weird” on his birthday, but went to the grave with the group to sing “Happy Birthday” to him.
This is heartbreaking and shows how much pressure Joan is under.
It's touching because she loves her late husband, but she also loves Chock – a lot is going on in her heart and mind. She has to come out of her pain to be emotionally present for Chock, and that's not done easily. Of course, Chock, who seems like such a nice man, understands the suffering. His late fiancée, Kathy Goree, died of brain cancer.
Joan needs to build a new life
Your leap of faith is so brave
I'll come back and take you home
Now, Joan has made it through Thanksgiving, but that doesn't mean the pressure has eased. The whole world is waiting to see if she will get married – they want a wedding. Some stingy fans might want a breakup, just because it adds to the post-show drama, but that kind of pain will trigger her, dragging her back to the worst time of her life, when she lost her husband. A breakup is really the last thing Joan needs, and no one knows that better than her.
Of course, Joan is a survivor. She has already lived with so much grief. However, she must know that building a relationship with Chock and then watching him fall apart will be emotionally exhausting. It can be humiliating too, although it shouldn't be. There's no shame in trying and failing, but the world can be a cruel place, and everything Joan and Chock do after a breakup will be scrutinized on Reddit, Instagram, YouTube… everywhere. This adds a lot of pressure.
Joan is truly a brave person and Chock is lucky to have her. Fortunately, he appreciates this woman, who gallantly tries to make his life better when many women simply give up on romance. In fact, Chock could be a great fit for Joan – he's someone who seems trustworthy, caring, and established. He doesn’t seem like a fly-by-night type of “player.”
If the duo gets married, it will be wonderful. Yes, they maintain a long-distance relationship, where they will divide their time between three cities. However, home is where the heart is, and what Joana needs is “that” kind of home… the feeling of peace, acceptance and adoration that one person can give to another, that makes the loved one feel feel safe, grateful and content. .